In Brief Comparison often starts automatically, shaped by media, comments and old expectations. Shifting focus from “How do I look?” to “How do I feel?” builds a more grounded connection to your body. Vulva appearance varies widely; there is no single “correct” way to look. Small, repeatable habits—comfortable clothes, balanced self-talk, realistic mirror routines—support body appreciation over time. Comparison is so deeply woven into modern life that many women barely notice it happening. A glance in a mirror, the angle of a selfie, a scroll through social media, an unexpected…